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Be positive Many guys are very clear in their dating profiles – almost rudely so – about what they don’t want or like.
Not only is this far too prescriptive, you also run the risk of coming across as overly negative.
No matter your gender or sexual orientation, dating can seem like a minefield.
Sometimes we meet the wrong people, choose a bad venue or fall head over heels with someone who just wants to be friends.
While the common dating ‘rules’ – not that I believe in rules – can apply to anybody, there are perhaps a few things we, as gay guys, need to pay a little more attention to.
BEFORE THE DATE·When setting a time and place for your date, be sure to make it a short meeting (1-2 hours) for the first time and select a place that is either activity-oriented or allows for lots of opportunity to talk.As far as you’re concerned, this is Day One – only wasteland came before it.Don’t get hung up on tops and bottoms or everything in between Yes, you know what you like, but if you’re looking for a relationship, it’s not just about what goes where and who’ll be standing on their head or whatever.We’re reducing men to body parts and stats; we need to cut it out.
Avoid regular haunts When you start dating, don’t go to places you bar-hopped during your bachelor days.
Say what you like to do, who you want to be with, and why people should date you. Don’t fetishise This is becoming a bigger issue in the gay dating world.